I was cleaning out my top dresser drawer. The drawer where I kept my letters. Letters I never opened. Some had been there for two years. When I got to the bottom of the drawer there it was; certified. Someone had signed for it. Someone had signed my life away.
Many times we don’t think before we act. I have friends who had been to jail and they have two things in common: going to jail and not thinking before reacting. They ALL have told me if they only would have thought first things would had turned out differently.
When I stop and think about how many times I have reacted without thinking I can see I’ve caused a lot of harm to myself and others. It’s only by God’s grace I haven’t been to jail for the sins I have committed.
No one wants being know as a reactor or a person who wears his feeling on his sleeves. But our emotions can run high at times and keep us from thinking about what we’re about to do. And they aren’t always necessarily negative emotions that get us into trouble. Sometimes reacting to positive emotions are just as deadly.
Lets take for instance marriage. People get married for some of the strangest reasons when they are feeling good. Like having a new-born baby or getting a promotion. Sometimes good sex can cause couples to jump the broom. Only later the marriage ends in a divorce because it wasn’t God’s will. Their intentions were good but their will wasn’t parallel with God’s will, so people ended up hurt and disappointed. King David also made critical decisions during good times that contributed to someone losing his life.
David and the whole house of Israel were celebrating with all their might before the LORD, with songs and with harps, lyres, tambourines, sistrums and cymbals. (2 Samuel 6:5)
David had just made king of Israel and brought Jerusalem into Israel’s control. David was “turned-up” as they say now. He was feeling himself. I can picture him having a block party and people dancing in the streets. It was just after he became king and his emotions were running high when he gets this bright idea.
They placed the Ark of God on a new cart and brought it from the hillside home of Abinadab. (2 Samuel 6:3)
After God blesses us we must continue to go to Him before making decisions. We can’t allow positive emotions and good times blind us into making costly choices. David had a desire to bring the Ark of God to Jerusalem but God had specific instructions for transporting it. (Exodus 25:10-15; Numbers 4:5-15) There are serious consequences for not thinking first or asking God for help before making decisions.
But when they arrived at the threshing floor of Nacon, the oxen stumbled, and Uzzah put out his hand to steady the Ark of God. Then the LORD’s anger blazed out against Uzzah for doing this, and God struck him dead beside the Ark of God. (2 Samuel 6:6-7)
Uzzah died for something they all were guilt of; carrying the Ark in a cart. He was doing what he thought was right when he tried to prevent the Ark from falling over. Maybe if David would had asked God how to carry the Ark BEFORE doing so Uzzah lives. Uzzah death could had been avoided if they had handled the Ark according to God’s instructions. Sadly it’s usually after a tragedy when we go to God for help.
David was now afraid of the LORD and asked, “How can I ever bring the Ark of the LORD back into my care?” So David decided not to move the Ark of the LORD into the City of David. He took it instead to the home of Obed-edom of Gath. The Ark of the LORD remained there with the family of Obed-edom for three months, and the LORD blessed him and his entire household. (2 Samuel 6:9-11)
David said hold up something isn’t right after witnessing Uzzah’s life taken by God. He then asked God what He had to say about how to move the Ark. David was so afraid it took him three months to make sure he understood how God wanted the Ark moved. Sometime we have to make sure not only what we’re doing is God’s will, but we must make sure we are doing it the way God wants it done.
David went back to get the Ark and meticulously followed God’s instructions for moving it. After the Ark made it safety to the City of David they began to celebrate with joy knowing they had followed God’s will this time. (2 Samuel 6:12)
Good times can trap us just like bad ones can. It’s easy to get caught up with good feelings while still making bad decisions. Learn to balance the scale by asking God before making decisions because someone’s life may depend on it.
“To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his a++ off for all his life just to gain rating is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE!”
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
What is missing at the core of this story? LOVE from all parties. The media and NFL are both being self-seeking while the public is being rude and unkind. And you Janay has not shown love to yourself or to your daughter. You only claims you love Ray.
Janay are you worried about your financial situation? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.
Are you feeling lost or embarrassed because the media has exposed you and the public has no concern for you as a human being? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.
Are you afraid to leave Ray because you’re married and believe it’s your duty as his wife to stand by him no matter what? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.
Ray hurt you physically but your denial has hurted and tormented you spiritually. Not all wounds are visible but fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.
God’s greatest gift to you Janay is your daughter, Rayven.Think about her safety.Think about what you’re teaching her distorted love looks like. Hold her close to you and together, with God, move on. This isn’t about Ray Rice or the NFL Commissioner losing their jobs this is about preventing you from losing your life. It only gets worse if you stay.
Put your confidences in God. He will stand before you and protect you from your abuser, the media and the public. He will protect you from yourself. God is your hiding place so turn to Him for comfort and believe what He said in His Word He is able to do.
I’m praying you go and start a healthy new life Janay by stepping out of the dark and into the light. God is light. God is life. God is all you need to go from where you are to where He wants you being. Be courageous! Do not despair! And remember GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE NEVER FAILS. Remember… GOD IS WITH YOU.